Today, my birthday was spent sitting through lectures, the library, and drinking a lot of water. Looking back at the goals I had on my last birthday, I couldn’t wish it anyway else. In addition to studying for an academic degree, I am also learning life lessons. I am imbibing fortitude to walk alone when the journey requires individuality, and humility to be cooperative when a formation is required. I have also come to see that sometimes, growth is dependent on constantly remembering what we have learnt, so I’d like to share with you one of the outstanding lessons of the past year for me.

Just as I don’t compare myself to others to be sad, I also don’t do comparisons to evade sadness. I own my happy moments and the low moments as well. If I am disappointed with my life, it is because I had expectations of myself that I have not met; certainly not expectations from others. I take responsibility for the good, the bad and the ugly.

“For how can you be phenomenal, if your life is full of pieces you do not identify with?”

The cheerful moments…

The days I am upset.

Times when I am as plain as plain.

And then the crazy Chisim springs up!

I have surges of energy, peeps…

Body no be firewood, abeg.

When the spirit of advocacy breaks forth.

Or the quietly observing mode sets in.

It is in owning every aspect of my life that I am finding victory. It is in my moments of weakness that I enjoy the fellowship of friends and family. It is in my days of strength that I build others up and contribute to the cycle of life. It is in the gloomy days that I remember that laughter is both a shield and arrow. In moments when I cannot speak up, I am sober and reflect on the words of others better equipped than I am. I also sit back to observe when I realise that some battles are best fought in silence.

Thank you for your kindness and feedback in the last one year of my life. I’m glad you’re part of my online space and I’m grateful to share yours as well. Thank you for our disagreements and comments that made me question a lot of things, and subsequently helped me to be a better person.

To more intentional living, and to more victories!

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    January 9, 2018 at 12:58 pm

    I love this. Bookmarking this and reading over and over again.

    Happy birthday dear. Live long and well.

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      January 10, 2018 at 10:10 pm

      Thank you!!! More years to us, Ogoo.

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