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Like A Brother To Me (Part 3)

“I hope your mascara is tear-proof. I don’t trust the bride to hold back her customary tears during the vows o.”

That was Ezinwanne, one of my bridesmaids, talking to the makeup artist who was working on my face. The most talkative of my friends, Ezinwanne had announced my engagement on her BBM profile despite my pleas. Being prompted, she continued, “I swear, Erimma is a queer person. The things that make her cry amuse me. What is it about exchange of vows that should make a thick-skinned like her cry? I just don’t get it. There was no wedding we both attended that she didn’t have wet eyes once the vows were read.”

I kept smiling all the while. I was feeling overwhelmed to utter a word, especially to Ezinwanne. Seconds later, there was a knock on the door and the hotel manager stood outside with a card for me. It read, “I’m set for the final stage. I’m ready to begin forever as your husband and your best friend.”

I did not think today would ever happen. I had this belief that certain friendships got ruined once romance was introduced. That explains why I struggled when Emeka and I tried to go on that transition road. I erroneously thought a lover was not supposed to see through my weakness and vulnerabilities. I wanted to always appear perfect to my knight, without the strings of humanity and its frailty. For a friend, seeing my flaws was not a problem but to have a lover see these things troubled me and prevented me from being myself.

True, Emeka gave up on us too soon. He forgot that love was a commitment, one that took time and effort to build. He didn’t realise that two people rarely start out on this kind of journey on the same level. It usually takes the patience and encouragement of one to draw the other up and have them give intensely and gladly receive as well.

I thought of the thank-you notes that were to be dispatched to Onyeka, the best man and my elder sister tomorrow. It was Onyeka who stalked my sister to her workplace so they could have a conversation about the breakup and how to salvage things. He would take it upon himself to give Emeka sleepless nights and get him to see the rashness of his actions. My sister was blunt with me and pointed out how I got things wrongs and helped me re-evaluate the things I considered important in a relationship.

The distance between us helped, not to get over the breakup but to communicate better. Because we were determined this time to make this work, we found practical ways to handle issues. Emeka learnt to apologise and I learnt to be lenient. We made a list of the attributes we loved about each other, laminated them and kept by our bed sides. Each day, we recited our mantra, “Love. Forgive. Give all. Receive with ease and gratitude.”

Timi Dakolo’s ‘The Vow’ played in the background as we read our vows. Yes, I had wet eyes. I knew I was promising a journey that would be ended by death but I was glad I was doing it with Emeka. I am aware that the learning continues but we were going into this equipped and armed with the determination to give it our best every single day. When the priest asked my husband to kiss me, I whispered, “Very quick one o. We have enough time for a longer session later.”

 

-THE END-

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24 Comments

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    Ogoo
    February 21, 2017 at 12:49 pm

    Awwww! How i love stories with happy endings. Too many sadness in this world jor. Glad they worked things out. But Simcious, i think you rushed this o! #Olivertwisttendencies

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      Chisimchere
      February 21, 2017 at 12:55 pm

      Auntie, sorry o. We’ll put more soup for you next time. Thank you following the story.

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    Okafor Chinasa Lois
    February 21, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    Just beautiful, I also love happy endings, especially where love is involved

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      Chisimchere
      February 21, 2017 at 4:21 pm

      Hahaha. . .I’m glad you enjoyed it. Thank you.

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    Uko
    February 21, 2017 at 1:48 pm

    Great….. romantic and just beautiful

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    ngozi
    February 21, 2017 at 2:23 pm

    wao! the best love story ever….is good to have a lover who knows all your flaws and still cherish you. Kudos Sim Special..more wisdom

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      Chisimchere
      February 21, 2017 at 4:20 pm

      Thanks, NG. And yes, that feeling of being loved in spite of the flaws is beautiful.

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    ngozi
    February 21, 2017 at 2:25 pm

    For the first time my comment went through. I always got a pop up that ”SITE BLOCKED”

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      Chisimchere
      February 21, 2017 at 5:19 pm

      I’m sorry for all the inconvenience. Thank you for trying still.

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    diora
    February 21, 2017 at 3:24 pm

    Nice one dear,enjoy reading your article,keep it coming

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      Chisimchere
      February 21, 2017 at 4:17 pm

      Thanks, Diora. I’m glad you enjoyed it.

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    Uchenna
    February 21, 2017 at 3:48 pm

    You don’t have to look too hard to find reasons to be apart. At the end of the day, it’s both parties’ commitment to making the relationship work that keeps them together. Interesting story Sim, keep it up.

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      Chisimchere
      February 21, 2017 at 4:17 pm

      Exactly! There’ll always be a truckload of reasons. Thanks, UC.

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    Emma
    February 21, 2017 at 4:34 pm

    Oh see how sweet love can be. ok lemme kontinu with my search…

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    'Dare Akinwale
    February 21, 2017 at 5:52 pm

    Chisim, you should have let them fight more!

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      Chisimchere
      February 21, 2017 at 6:47 pm

      I’m sorry. We were striving for world peace.

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    Amaka
    February 22, 2017 at 8:42 am

    Awww! Beautiful love story. Thumbs up Sim. I enjoy your stories alot,more please. #Imaddicted#. More love 😍.

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      Chisimchere
      February 23, 2017 at 12:54 am

      Thank you. You’ll have more.

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    Adaobi
    February 22, 2017 at 12:12 pm

    This is really true to the later. We should always learn to forgive especially those we spend our everyday life with.

    Thanks for this ma. More wisdom!

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      Chisimchere
      February 23, 2017 at 12:54 am

      I’m glad you picked those points. Thank you for reading.

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    Adaora.
    August 4, 2017 at 8:14 pm

    Love this! 1-3- awesome pieces.
    Well done, Chisim. I like how easily relatable the story is- the characters too.
    Well done!

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      Chisimchere
      August 8, 2017 at 11:12 pm

      Thank you, Adaora. I’m glad you came by.

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